Christine’s Date Update – OkCupid and Tinder

Christine - Mobile Dating BootCampHi! It’s Christine with my last blog before I head over to the Mobile Dating Conference.
Here’s my date update for OkCupid and Tinder.
OK Cupid:  RE: notifications,  I don’t need an email every time someone “chose me!” or when someone is “checking me out right now!”  That does nothing for me, especially since those are the guys who never bother to message me.  I’m starting to view those msgs as spam, which an app never wants.
As for the guys, I’ve been visited by 30 guys since June 2nd and have gotten 13 new messages in the past week from different guys (most of them are rated 27%-47% compatible with me…)
 
I have been messaging three.  One is the same guy as last week (the one I wasn’t really into) and it looks like he’s just looking for a pen pal anyway.  Another I reached out to…he answered my questions but didn’t ask me anything in return, which seems to be a frustrating trend on OKC.  Why respond to someone if you don’t want to know anything about them?  Or are they just so socially awkward that they don’t realize that’s the polite thing to do?  And the third guy has only asked me about acting advice, which is annoying.  My OKC does not say “looking for friends.”
I have no desire to ever try the Crazy Blind Date portion of the app.  Based on the guys who have been looking at my profile and the kinds of inane or downright sexual advances I’ve received in initial messages, I don’t want to deal with that amplified in person where I can’t delete the message and move on to the next guy who could have more potential.
 
Tinder:  Not sure I mentioned the first ever messaging encounter I had with a guy on this app.  If not, here’s the gist…it’s pretty amusing.
Jay* (I’ve changed his name) greeted me and asked me what I was up to.  He then proceeded to invite me to “stop by his office.”  When I declined that he said “then should I come to your place? If you comf.”
I was unfamiliar with what the abbrev “comf” stood for so my friend and I googled it…I’ll let you do that on your own.
I called him out on it and he tried to backpedal saying he meant “comfortable.”  I didn’t respond.
Well, two days ago (2 weeks after the “comf encounter”) he messaged me again.  Guess he couldn’t take my last three hints!
 
As for the app itself, I really like all of the changes they’ve implemented with the newest update.  You can now choose your desired age range (no more 20 years olds or 50 year olds!) AND distance (no more dudes in the OC or Calabasas!)

Joe’s Update

Joe - Mobile Dating BootCampHi, It’s Joe with my date update for Mobile Dating BootCamp.

I’m using Tinder, with very little response rate. Glad they added in the age filters since my last update. The matchmaker feature is interesting, although I don’t really see myself using it. The app really is tailored for good looking people as there’s very little content on there and it’s people’s best pics (5 max). Most the pics tend to be pretty artsy or with multiple friends, so you can get a good look at the person. And the minimal effort required to join means minimal interest in keeping up with it. Even when I did connect with a few people, they never responded again.

On Let’s Date, I’m just not a fan of the quality of the people on there. The only distance filter is region, e.g. Los Angeles. But includes all of the surrounding areas, which isn’t particularly useful. I don’t want to date someone in the OC or deep in the valley. As much as I x-out the things I don’t like, it doesn’t seem to matter because I keep getting similar people. I assume it’s because they have a limited user base, so they’re forced to suggest people that don’t fit your criteria. After 1+ month of using regularly, still not mutual interest thus far.

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Christine’s Date Update

Christine - Mobile Dating BootCampHi, It’s Christine with my date update for Mobile Dating BootCamp.

I’ve gotten 16 new OK Cupid messages.  I’ve responded to one, mostly because I felt bad that I’m not attracted to any of the guys messaging me.  And one message from a good friend of mine who got matched to me.  We had a good laugh.

I’ve had 19 matches on Tinder and four have messaged me.  Mostly “How do you know Mutual Friend #1” or just the generic “Hi, I’m Guy’s Name.” to which I respond and then nothing.  It’s still really fun though!

Eharmony has been good.  It requires a lot more effort than OKC and Tinder so once the guys end up messaging you, they’re writing small novels.  I’ve made it to “eharmony mail” with three guys, all of whom seem nice, who are interesting and are not just trying to get in my pants.  None have asked to meet in person yet, but I guess it’s still early.

I’m looking forward to the Mobile Dating Conference at the SLS Hotel.

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Romy’s Date Update

Romy - Mobile Dating BootCampHi, it’s Romy with my first update using the mobile dating apps Tinder and Plenty of Fish.

So Tinder was fun, for about a half hour, at which point I realized that I’ve scrolled through a few hundred women and Liked maybe 80%, without any chat results. Then it occurred to me that a lot of these women haven’t logged onto the site in weeks. And if they do come back, they’ll have to scroll through probably hundreds of pics of guys before they get a chance to Like me back, generating a chat request. Fun idea, but without more real, active women using the site, it’s kind of pointless.

POF looked good on my Samsung Galaxy S3 with its vertical scroll and all, but shortly after using it I realized the last thing I want to do is be typing out messages on my phone. It became somewhat more tolerable when I paired my bluetooth keyboard to the phone, but at that point I have to ask myself — why am I using a mobile app instead of the desktop? As far as the experience goes, POF is significantly better for actually meeting people in my opinion. People don’t need to mutually Like each other to communicate, so all a girl has to do is sift through about 200 messages from horny old men and eventually she’ll see yours!

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Joe’s 1st Blog – Mobile Dating BootCamp

JoeHi it’s Joe with my first blog post for Mobile Dating BootCamp.

I’m busy using the new mobile dating apps, Tinder and Let’s Date.

Tinder idea is great.  Connecting you with friends of friends and quick reviewing of potential people.  It’s execution is lacking somewhat.  It’s missing filters.  Many of the users are very young (18-23) and particularly attractive, which doesn’t make sense why they’d be on this app.  I wonder if they got added without their knowing.  The app also doesn’t pull meaningful information in, so it’s hard to know if someone would be a good fit.  Probably errored on too quick to adopt, which means people aren’t committed to using it.  It also doesn’t seem to have much user adoption. I haven’t had much luck connecting with people despite going through quite a few.

Let’s date is actually better for identifying people who could be a match.  It provides easy scrolling of pics and relevant info for making a match.  Given the higher admin burden to sign up, the candidates don’t seem as attractive as those on Tinder.  I’ve noticed you’ve got more artsy and creative types with tattoos and piercings.  Could just be my geography in LA.  I have used the swipe feature where you can point out what you do/don’t like, but it doesn’t really seem to work well.  Takes too much effort too.  I’d really prefer to state my preferences up front and then refine from there.  My guess is the user base isn’t large enough to build it that way.  This is consistent with me getting matches that are 30+ miles away from me.  I couldn’t date someone in Santa Barbara from LA even if they were a supermodel.  I did appreciate the idea of saying X of the next Y people are interested in you.  But when it doesn’t happen, it’s a bit discouraging.  Again probably comes back to not a large enough user base actively using the app.  I do have a friend who met some boys through it, so maybe I need to give it more time.