Christine’s Date Update – OkCupid and Tinder

Christine - Mobile Dating BootCampHi! It’s Christine with my last blog before I head over to the Mobile Dating Conference.
Here’s my date update for OkCupid and Tinder.
OK Cupid:  RE: notifications,  I don’t need an email every time someone “chose me!” or when someone is “checking me out right now!”  That does nothing for me, especially since those are the guys who never bother to message me.  I’m starting to view those msgs as spam, which an app never wants.
As for the guys, I’ve been visited by 30 guys since June 2nd and have gotten 13 new messages in the past week from different guys (most of them are rated 27%-47% compatible with me…)
 
I have been messaging three.  One is the same guy as last week (the one I wasn’t really into) and it looks like he’s just looking for a pen pal anyway.  Another I reached out to…he answered my questions but didn’t ask me anything in return, which seems to be a frustrating trend on OKC.  Why respond to someone if you don’t want to know anything about them?  Or are they just so socially awkward that they don’t realize that’s the polite thing to do?  And the third guy has only asked me about acting advice, which is annoying.  My OKC does not say “looking for friends.”
I have no desire to ever try the Crazy Blind Date portion of the app.  Based on the guys who have been looking at my profile and the kinds of inane or downright sexual advances I’ve received in initial messages, I don’t want to deal with that amplified in person where I can’t delete the message and move on to the next guy who could have more potential.
 
Tinder:  Not sure I mentioned the first ever messaging encounter I had with a guy on this app.  If not, here’s the gist…it’s pretty amusing.
Jay* (I’ve changed his name) greeted me and asked me what I was up to.  He then proceeded to invite me to “stop by his office.”  When I declined that he said “then should I come to your place? If you comf.”
I was unfamiliar with what the abbrev “comf” stood for so my friend and I googled it…I’ll let you do that on your own.
I called him out on it and he tried to backpedal saying he meant “comfortable.”  I didn’t respond.
Well, two days ago (2 weeks after the “comf encounter”) he messaged me again.  Guess he couldn’t take my last three hints!
 
As for the app itself, I really like all of the changes they’ve implemented with the newest update.  You can now choose your desired age range (no more 20 years olds or 50 year olds!) AND distance (no more dudes in the OC or Calabasas!)

Christine’s Date Update on Harmony

Christine - Mobile Dating BootCampHi! It’s Christine with a date update from Mobile Dating BootCamp.

We’re just one day away from meeting everyone at the Mobile Dating Conference in Beverly Hills and Ithought I’d share my thoughts on eHarmony’s mobile dating app.

I’m still messaging with the same three guys. It’s getting to novel length! At least that’s now it looks like on my cell phone. I’ve also sent a few multiple choice (mcs) things to other guys but haven’t gotten any responses. No new guys have sent me mcs either. Actually, funny coincidence, one of the guys JUST messaged me and has asked me out towards the end of the week. I’m very excited to actually meet someone in person!

The app itself is fairly easy though I wish there was an easier way to handle notifications. I don’t want a notification every time a guy looks at my profile and THEN sends me the mc thing. That’s already 2 notifications for a guy I’m potentially not interested in. But on the flip side, I would like to know when someone has sent me a message that I’m already in contact with. There should be an easier way to filter. I also haven’t been able to figure out how to “hide” the matches I’m not interested in, so I have a really long list and it’s hard to scroll to the ones I could possibly like. I know there’s a way to do it….

Tomorrow, I’ll share my thoughts on OkCupid  and Tinder before getting into my Uber limo ride to the SLS Hotel for the iDate/Mobile Dating Conference.

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Stephen’s Date Update

StephenHi. It’s Stephen with my date update from Mobile Dating BootCamp.

They updated the How About We app for iPhone, and since the upgrade, the app constantly fails upon entering the message inbox. Other than that I find that posting a witty idea increases the likelihood of a response.

The common flaw of on-line dating: I nabbed a couple dates off OK Cupid and How About We over the past weekend, however none of the dates matched any of their photos, as they were either old or obscure.

I worked with Julie Spira who critiqued my profile to enhance my chances of meeting someone. I wondered if I had the right photos posted and if my description was too long/short? Julie helped me increase my dating probability by widening my age range, changed my primary photo which Stephen - Mobile Dating BootCampincluded a blurry photo of me and with two other women, which she said was a huge turn-off to women. We also included a bit more information on my profile.

Since the changes, I have locked down two dates already this week. Overall both applications were also helpful. I recommend OkCupid for those interested in a casual way of meeting people. I recommend How About We for the more serious daters.

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Christine’s Date Update

Christine - Mobile Dating BootCampHi, It’s Christine with my date update for Mobile Dating BootCamp.

I’ve gotten 16 new OK Cupid messages.  I’ve responded to one, mostly because I felt bad that I’m not attracted to any of the guys messaging me.  And one message from a good friend of mine who got matched to me.  We had a good laugh.

I’ve had 19 matches on Tinder and four have messaged me.  Mostly “How do you know Mutual Friend #1” or just the generic “Hi, I’m Guy’s Name.” to which I respond and then nothing.  It’s still really fun though!

Eharmony has been good.  It requires a lot more effort than OKC and Tinder so once the guys end up messaging you, they’re writing small novels.  I’ve made it to “eharmony mail” with three guys, all of whom seem nice, who are interesting and are not just trying to get in my pants.  None have asked to meet in person yet, but I guess it’s still early.

I’m looking forward to the Mobile Dating Conference at the SLS Hotel.

Mobile Dating BootCamp was created by online dating expert Julie Spira to help singles find love from the convenience of their mobile phones. Spira has taken her Online Dating BootCamp a step further by featuring the latest mobile dating apps. Find out more at CyberDatingExpert.com and MobileDatingBootCamp.com.

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Jaime’s Date Update

Jaime - Mobile Dating BootCampI have been using the mobile apps for Match.com and Tinder. Tinder is actually pretty fun, almost like a game. You just drag a person to the plus or minus side if you like them or not. It also shows if you have mutual friends on Facebook, which is cool. One thing about Tinder is that there are a lot of really young people on this site, so you have to sort through a lot of people if you don’t want to date twenty year olds! I chatted with a few people and ended up meeting up for coffee with one guy. He was 37, I think and we actually had one mutual friend on facebook. Our first date went pretty well and I ended up meeting him for dinner later in the week. We had fun but I ended up feeling that we just didn’t have a lot in common so we parted ways.

On Match I have been on several dates, some good and some not great of course. I haven’t actually had any horrible experiences so that is good. Most of the people I have gone out with are very nice but there just may not be an attraction there. I did meet one guy for happy hour and it went well. I was attracted to him, we had a lot in common and ended up going on a few more dates. Recently I found out some things through facebook and instagram that just lead me to believe he isn’t really looking for a long term relationship so I have stopped seeing him.

Overall this has been a good experience but I will keep looking!!

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Christine’s Journey

Christine - Mobile Dating BootCampSince I created a new OKC account, I’ve been visited by 30 people and have received ten messages…not a bad ratio for online dating!  Only issue is I’m not attracted to a single one of them.  :(

I got a delightful message from another 50+ year old man:

“I offer romance, respect, and never ending friendship. I have deep experience in many explorations that may interest you. I have lived in Europe and Asia as well as North America. I have virtually explored Mars with a camera I built that landed there. I have invented technology that has touched your life. You intrigue me. I hope you will find my combination of attributes attractive. Please let us meet in person so my passion for life can elevate our conversation to a captivating level!”

I downloaded Tinder for the fun of it.  It’s like boyfriend shopping!!  And you can easily play around it with with your friends while you’re waiting for drinks or food while out.  Granted, a lot of the guys are just looking for a quick hook up, but I’ve had a few fun conversations…that led nowhere.  It’s also a great ego boost.  I’ve had 27 matches since signing up on Friday afternoon, four of whom have sent me a message.  I wish that ratio were higher, but to be fair, I’m not taking the initiative either.  I think part of that is because I like to be pursued, even just a little bit.  If he already knows I think he’s attractive, why not reach out to me?  One thing I also really like about Tinder is that only mutual matches can send you a message.  That’s a lot of saved “wasted” time.  :)

As for eharmony, I got 25 multiple choice emails from guys.  I’ve responded to 4 and last night reached out to three more of my matches (2 have already replied.)  It’s all multiple choice, which is weird, but I’m seeing where it goes.  At least it requires effort so I’m assuming the guys are looking for something more and a “buddy.”

I’ll keep you posted!

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Joe’s 1st Blog – Mobile Dating BootCamp

JoeHi it’s Joe with my first blog post for Mobile Dating BootCamp.

I’m busy using the new mobile dating apps, Tinder and Let’s Date.

Tinder idea is great.  Connecting you with friends of friends and quick reviewing of potential people.  It’s execution is lacking somewhat.  It’s missing filters.  Many of the users are very young (18-23) and particularly attractive, which doesn’t make sense why they’d be on this app.  I wonder if they got added without their knowing.  The app also doesn’t pull meaningful information in, so it’s hard to know if someone would be a good fit.  Probably errored on too quick to adopt, which means people aren’t committed to using it.  It also doesn’t seem to have much user adoption. I haven’t had much luck connecting with people despite going through quite a few.

Let’s date is actually better for identifying people who could be a match.  It provides easy scrolling of pics and relevant info for making a match.  Given the higher admin burden to sign up, the candidates don’t seem as attractive as those on Tinder.  I’ve noticed you’ve got more artsy and creative types with tattoos and piercings.  Could just be my geography in LA.  I have used the swipe feature where you can point out what you do/don’t like, but it doesn’t really seem to work well.  Takes too much effort too.  I’d really prefer to state my preferences up front and then refine from there.  My guess is the user base isn’t large enough to build it that way.  This is consistent with me getting matches that are 30+ miles away from me.  I couldn’t date someone in Santa Barbara from LA even if they were a supermodel.  I did appreciate the idea of saying X of the next Y people are interested in you.  But when it doesn’t happen, it’s a bit discouraging.  Again probably comes back to not a large enough user base actively using the app.  I do have a friend who met some boys through it, so maybe I need to give it more time.

Jaime’s First Post – Mobile Dating BootCamp

Jaime old photojaime31Oh how my profile needed some help!

Online dating expert Julie Spira and I emailed back and forth for a few weeks about my background, what I am looking for in a relationship etc. Last night we had our first phone conversation. We talked again about what sites I had been using for dating and then we went over my profile. First off, Julie told me I had way too many pictures up, I had 13 but she recommended having 5 up. I had always figured the more pictures the better, I am sometimes suspicious when someone only has a few pictures on their profile.

Julie told me not to give everything away in my profile, just to make it a bit of a teaser. I always had a picture of myself in a bikini, which she said is sending the wrong message. I had put it on the site because some of my guys friends that does online dating told me I should. I am looking for a serious relationship- I want to get married and have kids so Julie told me I had to take this picture down. The picture did get me a lot of attention, probably not the kind I am looking for!

We went over the rest of my profile, made some changes that will hopefully help! I am going to to play around on the Tinder and Match.com mobile apps and see how it goes!

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